Some callers are calling for advice and not to get off, surprisingly enough. Some have sad stories and are seeking genuine help for their dilemmas. One man called today that had a health issue in the past, a prostate issue, not uncommon with older men. Of course I knew he was going to say this had affected his ability to have sex, and yup, that’s where it went. He went on to say his wife had always had a high sex drive, and while he pleasured her orally regularly, he felt this just wasn’t enough for her and he wanted to give her permission to find a lover on the side.
I thought this was a very considerate thing to do, and even if she didn’t take him up on it, at least he would have offered. Then he started coming up with all these ground rules. How it should only ever be with the same guy no more than twice to avoid feelings, how once a month should suffice. His “rules” were making it a why bother with all these restrictions kind of situation in my mind. I doubt he will even get up the courage to have such a conversation, but he’s struggling with what to do to keep his wife satisfied and trying to come up with workable solutions, but his conditions are such I doubt anything will come of it.
He’s not the first, nor I’m sure the last, that calls with these sorts of issues. You feel bad for these people, and offer what advice you can that seems to make sense given the circumstances they explain to you. There’s a lot of sad and disappointed people out there suffering at times through no fault of their own and you struggle to give them an answer they want to hear or can live with.
